I never really want to these days. But I’m still in the phase of feeling like I don’t know how else to congregate people. It seems mad for me to suggest the pub if I’m not massively bothered about drinking booze. But people don’t jump at a long walk ending in tea and cake as readily. Also I still feel pangs of envy when people have reputations of being Very Fun. Very Up For It. That was me once. And now I’m just not. So what is my thing? I’ll keep working that out, though. I much prefer a hangover free life 🩷
I think the transition is the hardest part isn't it? Because people still have that expectation of you and you almost feel like you need to prove you're still reALLy FuN! It's not the easiest when others are still really keen to spend every social function drinking - I'm lucky I've got a couple of friends who are like me and tend to just have the one. Stick with the tea and cake and walks though... people will come round. What's not to like? ;) x
I’m ‘unusual’ in that I’m 34 and have never drunk alcohol… I grew up in a household where my parents didn’t drink (religious reasons - here I go explaining it already!!) and it was just never something that appealed to me! I’ve always been frustrated that the default assumption is that everybody drinks - work secret Santa presents of alcohol etc. Whenever I’ve been asked why I don’t drink, I always say that I’ve just never wanted to… didn’t stop my MIL forcefully suggesting I “just try a sip” one Christmas (I pretended to and then said I didn’t like it, to avoid a scene 🙄) and people always want more information. I just don’t get why it’s anyone’s business!
I completely agree Chloe! I shouldn't be the default at all. And I *loathe* the whole buying alcohol as a present thing because I think it's so presumptuous (and actually a really bad idea in some situations). My dad drank but wasn't a good drunk, while my mum never really drank anything so I assume there's a few negative connotations in my own brain... I hope the pressure for you to 'try' it minimises and you don't always feel the need to explain yourself. It's not for everyone and that's absolutely fine! x
I had my first child at 21, had drunk a fishbowl of minority illusion the week I found out I was pregnant. I stopped drinking straightaway, and just never took it up again. I have a cocktail, usually a margarita, when I go out for the occasional dinner, or I’m on holidays. But I just don’t drink regularly. I always wanted to be one of those people that had a glass of wine while cooking dinner, but I always forget in the business of dinner preparation.
Yes I totally get that! I'm similar to you; would happily drink a mojito or something like that when out for the evening but just genuinely don't think to pick up an alcoholic drink at home all that often. Good lord, fish bowls though. If there's one thing which cements the sort of life you're living at 21, it's fish bowls! x
I think I’m the same as you- a couple of kids in a row, a BAD experience with HG, and suddenly a hangover and potentially being sick for the millionth time in my life doesn’t seem that appealing any more 😂
I never really want to these days. But I’m still in the phase of feeling like I don’t know how else to congregate people. It seems mad for me to suggest the pub if I’m not massively bothered about drinking booze. But people don’t jump at a long walk ending in tea and cake as readily. Also I still feel pangs of envy when people have reputations of being Very Fun. Very Up For It. That was me once. And now I’m just not. So what is my thing? I’ll keep working that out, though. I much prefer a hangover free life 🩷
I think the transition is the hardest part isn't it? Because people still have that expectation of you and you almost feel like you need to prove you're still reALLy FuN! It's not the easiest when others are still really keen to spend every social function drinking - I'm lucky I've got a couple of friends who are like me and tend to just have the one. Stick with the tea and cake and walks though... people will come round. What's not to like? ;) x
I’m ‘unusual’ in that I’m 34 and have never drunk alcohol… I grew up in a household where my parents didn’t drink (religious reasons - here I go explaining it already!!) and it was just never something that appealed to me! I’ve always been frustrated that the default assumption is that everybody drinks - work secret Santa presents of alcohol etc. Whenever I’ve been asked why I don’t drink, I always say that I’ve just never wanted to… didn’t stop my MIL forcefully suggesting I “just try a sip” one Christmas (I pretended to and then said I didn’t like it, to avoid a scene 🙄) and people always want more information. I just don’t get why it’s anyone’s business!
I completely agree Chloe! I shouldn't be the default at all. And I *loathe* the whole buying alcohol as a present thing because I think it's so presumptuous (and actually a really bad idea in some situations). My dad drank but wasn't a good drunk, while my mum never really drank anything so I assume there's a few negative connotations in my own brain... I hope the pressure for you to 'try' it minimises and you don't always feel the need to explain yourself. It's not for everyone and that's absolutely fine! x
I had my first child at 21, had drunk a fishbowl of minority illusion the week I found out I was pregnant. I stopped drinking straightaway, and just never took it up again. I have a cocktail, usually a margarita, when I go out for the occasional dinner, or I’m on holidays. But I just don’t drink regularly. I always wanted to be one of those people that had a glass of wine while cooking dinner, but I always forget in the business of dinner preparation.
Yes I totally get that! I'm similar to you; would happily drink a mojito or something like that when out for the evening but just genuinely don't think to pick up an alcoholic drink at home all that often. Good lord, fish bowls though. If there's one thing which cements the sort of life you're living at 21, it's fish bowls! x
I think I’m the same as you- a couple of kids in a row, a BAD experience with HG, and suddenly a hangover and potentially being sick for the millionth time in my life doesn’t seem that appealing any more 😂
You're spot on - I really don't think HG helps with wanting to ever willingly put yourself in a position where you feel rough! x